When memories haunt you and pain seems fresh, forgiveness is surreal. When offended, we want to get even. When assaulted, we want to retaliate. We want to set things straight: we are not going to succumb to anyone without getting a fight for our rights, especially when we end up getting hurt.
People think that refusing to give forgiveness to the offending person is a form of retaliation. They think that it is the same as getting even. The unforgiving always carry the burden of hatred and hopes that in one way or another, vengeance will befall the hands of his perpetrator. Day in and day out, his desire is to get even. He never realize that carrying the weight of unforgiveness is like carrying a dead weight. Imagine carrying a corpse in your back wherever you go! And a corpse is heavier than living person!
Unforgiveness hurts no one than the person who keeps it for himself. On the contrary, releasing forgiveness sets a person free. You do not deserve to carry the weight of pain and haunting memories. Let go of the past. Remember that you are only hurting yourself with your unforgiveness. And while it is true that the memories will always pay you a visit, keep in mind what Martin Luther King Jr. said, “Forgiveness is not an occasional act, it is a constant attitude.”
Embrace joy today and release forgiveness.