Pass or Fail 3: How to be the Best Yuppie Ever

Napakapalad ng mga Pinoy GenZ, kasi they have access to a wide selection of resources that will help them succeed in life, at isa na dun ang Pass or Fail Book 3: Paano Maging Best Yuppie Ever  by Ptr. Ronald Molmisa.

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Filled with practical tips on how to move from the academe to the workplace, the book speaks like a big brother to a younger sibling. Nakakatuwa nga kasi as I was reading the book, I’m reading it with the voice of Ptr. Ronald. It is more than passing on of information – it passes life lessons. Here are my reasons why:

  1. Magsisimula tayo sa pinakamahalagang tanong: ready ka na ba? Sa mga unang chapters pa lang magtatanong ka sa sarili mo kung na-overcome mo na ba ang phase ng pagiging [bulakbol] na estudyante to wear the mantle of an adult filled with responsibilities. In short, from being a a student to #adulting phase. Then may mga tools siya na io-offer for you to better discover yourself, para mas maging clear kung saan ba talaga ang direction na para sayo.img_4848
  2. He will also give you tips on how to increase your chances of landing a job that suits you – kung saan ka maaaring maghahanap ng trabaho, sa paggawa ng impressive na resume o curriculum vitae (I finally learned the difference between the two! Haha!), at kung ano ang mga do’s and don’ts sa job interview. Favorite kong part yung mga common interview questions at kung ano ang maaari mong isagot sa mga tanong na ito. Bakit kasi wala nito nung panahong nag-aapply pa lang ako?
  3. It tackles relationship building and conflict resolution. Hindi lang ang kumita ang mahalaga sa pagiging young professional. Mahalaga rin na marunong kang makisama sa mga officemates mo at sa boss mo, at lalo na sa sarili mo. I love how it stresses out the idea that we work from rest, not work to rest. We cannot afford to compromise our sanity and health for our work. Bahagi ng pagiging best yuppie ever ang pagkakaroon ng healthy perception of rest.
  4. Mae-encourage ka na i-develop mo ang tamang work ethics pagdating sa trabaho. Paano ka magse-save for the future, paano mo ire-represent si Jesus sa workplace mo by your actions and speech, at kung ano ang motivations mo sa paglilingkod. The concept of “ikigai” was introduced, which means “reason for being”. While this “workplace nirvana” is seldom achieved, at least mabibigyan tayo ng encouragement to do our best for the Lord.

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As you read the book, it will encourage you to assess yourself and will leave you committing to your purpose. Pakiramdam ko napagalitan nga ako ni Ptr. Ronald, lalo na sa idea na baka naso-shortchange ko na ang employer ko, o baka hindi na aligned sa will ni Lord ang career goals ko. It’s always good to be reminded.

This book is the third installment sa Pass or Fail series ni Ptr. Ronald. Hindi lang siya love and relationship guru, he is indeed a mentor to the youth. Oyeah!

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Shooting Arrows

You can begin to be an arrow-crafter and a warrior kahit hindi ka pa ganap na parent.

Adulting.

Yung paggising mo na lang isang araw, the reality of responsibilities no longer seem distant but is already in front of you, slapping you in the face. Yung pagkatapos mong matulog nang mahimbing, gigisingin ka niya gently ng 6am, or 7am only to remind you – “you’re no longer a kid so wake up, stretch those muscles and be more responsible with your life”. Oo, parang bulong lang na “Resorts World Manilaaaah!”

Ohh, quarter-life crisis.

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I was talking about sorta-parenting advice on my previous blog (link here, basahin mo na rin. Haha!). Again I’m not yet a parent kaya marami pa akong dapat matutunan at ma-experience bago ako maging credible sa topic na ito. What I write about are just my thoughts.

Isa sa mga pabirong sagot ko sa tanong kung ilan ang gusto kong anak, I answer nine – and I will name them based sa “fruits of the spirit”: love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness, faithfulness and self-control. Yeah, self-control na pagdating sa huli. Pero syempre, joke lang yung nine 🙂

Sabi sa Psalms 127:3-5:

Children are a heritage from the Lord,
offspring a reward from him.
Like arrows in the hands of a warrior
are children born in one’s youth.
Blessed is the man
whose quiver is full of them.
They will not be put to shame
when they contend with their opponents in court.

All along, I associate parenting with diapers and feeding bottles, of tuition fees and homeworks, of PTA meetings and grading cards. But the Bible shatters this stereotyping with an unconventional comparison, at least in our context. From diaper-wielding parents to fierce warriors – sino nga bang makakapagsabi that the Bible pictures parents with bow and arrows?

They have to hit a target. And what’s their target? I suppose they are shooting their arrows toward the future – to hit a mark, to make a difference, to claim a spot. But what kind of arrow are they shooting?

Being a warrior requires discipline. Kailangan bukod sa pagiging handa sa laban, dapat magaling ka din sa paggamit ng napili mong sandata. And if children are like arrows, ang mga parents ay parang mga archers. Steady ang pulso sa pag-aim ng arrow. May malinaw na vision sa target. Sabi pa nga ng verse, mapalad ang taong puno ang quiver, o ang sisidlan ng mga arrows. So justified na ba ang nine na anak? Hahaha!

Ano naman ang aim ng mga archers, este ng parents? Hindi naman siguro sila blindly titira lang ng arrow kung saan. They have to hit a target. And what’s their target? I suppose they are shooting their arrows toward the future – to hit a mark, to make a difference, to claim a spot. But what kind of arrow are they shooting? Yung arrow ba na ititira nila will really make a difference? It depends entirely on how they will craft their arrows. Child-rearing.

From this illustration alone, I believe that being a parent is indeed difficult – molding the child, training them to follow the godly path. How will you craft an arrow that will impact the next generation? Personally, anong mga preparations na dapat kong gawin para maging magaling na arrow-crafter and warrior? Challenging.

Parenting is effective when it is demonstrated; you gotta lead by example. Sabi nga, madali lang maging tatay, pero ang maging mabuting magulang

My personal conviction is that you can begin to be an arrow-crafter and a warrior kahit hindi ka pa ganap na parent. Develop skills. Hone your talents. Fill your mind with the Word. Train yourself to be godly. Remember that you cannot give what you don’t have. Parenting is effective when it is demonstrated; you gotta lead by example. Sabi nga, madali lang maging tatay, pero ang maging mabuting magulang – it will require you not just to get past through adulting phase and quarter-life crisis. It will require you to embrace the realization that you are wielding in your quiver the arrows that will change the future.

Ok. Ready na akong supalpalin ulit ng responsibilities bukas ng umaga. Oh, adulting.