Gift Ideas for the Ones You Love

Best gifts we can give our loved ones this season:

Para sa asawa:

Tokens, simple or extravagant are always welcome. Nagpapakita yan ng pagpapahalaga at nagpapatibay ng relationship. Kung wala, ok lang yan. Ang pinakamainam na regalo sa iyong kabiyak ay ang pagiging loyal mo sa kanya. Yung kahit anong mangyari, maganda man o hindi ang sitwasyon, ay mananatili kang tapat sa kanya. In the first place, yan naman ang pangako niyo sa isa’t isa di ba, for better or for worse?

Para sa magulang:

Sa maraming beses na hindi nila kinain yung huling slice ng cake o yung ulam na gustong-gusto nila para may makain ka pag-uwi, naku this time tapatan mo naman yun. Mag-uwi ka ng something for them. Yung pasalubong na walang halong sumbat at panghihinayang. Pero alam mo, kulang pa nga ang mga bulaklak, cake o chocolate para sa mga sakit at tampo na dinulot mo sa kanila sa tuwing nagpapasaway ka. Kaya more than the pasalubong, a sincere sorry will do. At magpakabait ka na rin kung pasaway ka man.

Para sa kapatid:

Partners kayo, dapat. Though may sinusunod kayong bro code, sis code o ano pa mang code na yan, ang mahalaga nagkakatulungan kayo. Gifts are good lalo na kung bata pa ang kapatid mo, pero alam mo kung ano ang best gift? Ikaw naman ang taya sa family dinner o sa bill ng kuryente. Hahaha!

Para sa jowa:

Alam mo na yan, dyan ka magaling eh. Haha! Ilang buwan pa nga lang napaghahandaan mo na yan eh, kaya di mo na need ng tip pagdating sa material gift. Pero best gift para sa girlfriend o boyfriend mo ay yung i-honor mo siya before the Lord, before her/his parents, and before others. Wag ipilit ang wala pa sa panahon. Wag magpadalos-dalos ng desisyon. An honorable relationship is still the best gift to give.

Para sa sarili:

Take some rest. It helps! Lalo na kung you’ve been very busy lately. Kung single ka, give yourself the gift of peace by not feeding yourself with self-defeating thoughts na dapat may jowa ka na para maging kumpleto ka. Mali yun! Kahit walang lovelife, you are still valuable and loved. Kung in a relationship ka naman, give yourself the gift of accountability by learning and growing from your relationship. Maraming life lessons kang matututunan kapag nasa relasyon ka kaya i-treasure mo yan at matuto.

An Attitude of Gratitude

Gratitude is an attitude that comes out of habitual thanksgiving.

An Attitude of GratitudeIt’s the time of the year again when gifts come pouring into our lap, bills and coins go into circulation and people tend to be more emotional than any time of the year. Merry Christmas folks! Welcome to the season of gifts and Yuletide cheers!

But more than receiving gifts, this is the season when we need to embrace the attitude of gratitude more tightly. This is the season when we are highly gullible to think we deserve more. We expect, we assume, and if we don’t get what we want – we might end up sulking.

When I delivered a message on gratitude last Sunday for the Salt and Light Sundays Christmas party, I shared this story:

Two old friends met each other on the street one day.  One looked forlorn, almost on the verge of tears.  His friend asked, “What has the world done to you, my old friend?”

The sad fellow said, “Let me tell you:  three weeks ago, my uncle died and left me forty thousand dollars.”

“That’s a lot of money.”

“But you see, two weeks ago, a cousin I never even knew died, and left me eighty-five thousand dollars, free and clear.”

“Sounds to me that you’ve been very blessed.”

“You don’t understand!” he interrupted.  “Last week my great-aunt passed away.  I inherited almost a quarter of a million from her.”

Now the man’s friend was really confused.  “Then, why do you look so glum?”

“This week . . . nothing!


Gift vs Entitlement

A gift is something we receive gratuitously, without any condition on our part. That is why the word “free gift” to me is redundant. If it is not free, if it comes with a condition, it is not a gift.

Receiving gifts on a regular basis makes us more expectant, to the point that we feel entitled for it. And when the regularity ceased, we feel robbed, hurt and even angry.

Receiving gifts on a regular basis makes us more expectant, to the point that we feel entitled for it. And when the regularity ceased, we feel robbed, hurt and even angry. The feeling of being entitled to receive something elevates us into a position of importance.

As children of God we are recipients of His daily grace – daily gifts from God. His grace offers us with a lot of things we can never provide for ourselves. These include our day to day provisions of food we set on our table, the money we use to buy our daily needs and all other material things we enjoy. It even extends to the things we seldom thank Him for – the air we breathe, the water we drink, our sanity, our ability to see, hear, listen and touch. These are gifts from God most of us enjoy regularly, until we almost feel entitled for it. We expect to receive these good things; take it away from us and we get upset.

Gratefulness over Thankfulness

Instead of sulking over the gifts we fail to receive, we should be thankful for the countless gifts we have already received in the past.

Yet again, more than being thankful for the gifts we receive, it is way better to cultivate an attitude of gratitude – that even if we fail to receive anything, even if circumstances fall short of our expectations, we are grateful.

I will give thanks to the Lord with my whole heart; I will recount all of your wonderful deeds. Psalms 9:1

Gratitude is an attitude that comes out of habitual thanksgiving. More often our thanksgiving are based and prompted by the good things we receive, but gratitude is evidenced both in good times and the bad. Like King David who expresses his gratefulness in whatever circumstance he is into, the more we meditate on God’s goodness and practice our thanksgivings even when the tides turn against us, gratefulness will naturally flow out of from us.

Be Thankful
~ Author Unknown ~

Thanks for not having
Be thankful that you don’t already have everything you desire.
If you did, what would there be to look forward to?

Thanks for lacking knowledge
Be thankful when you don’t know something,
for it gives you the opportunity to learn.

Thanks for difficult times
Be thankful for the difficult times.
During those times you grow.

Thanks for limitations
Be thankful for your limitations,
because they give you opportunities for improvement.

Thanks for challenges
Be thankful for each new challenge,
because it will build your strength and character.

Thanks for mistakes made
Be thankful for your mistakes.
They will teach you valuable lessons.

Thanks for exhaustion
Be thankful when you’re tired and weary,
because it means you’ve made the effort.

Thanks for setbacks
It’s easy to be thankful for the good things.
A life of rich fulfillment comes to those who
are also thankful for the setbacks.

Thanks for troubles
Gratitude can turn a negative into a positive.
Find a way to be thankful for your troubles,
and they can become your blessings.

Anyway, the phenomenal Maine Mendoza posted her thanksgiving on her Instagram account.

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And this video has given me enough reasons to be grateful for what I enjoy in life. While I can still find time to complain over things I am not able to get, these children has shown the world what it means to be grateful and overwhelmingly joyful over things we usually consider normal and simple.

This Christmas, we got a lot of things to be thankful for. And let us start expressing our thanks until it becomes a habit, cultivating in us an attitude of gratitude.

Merry Christmas!

To all my Friends

I’ll never run out of reasons to thank the Lord for friends who always warm my life.

To all my friendsAs I reflect upon the year

Since I first step into existence,

I couldn’t help but be amazed

For God’s gifts called friends.

In the rugged path I’m trudging

Wonderful people I have met.

Some chose to stay, while others left

But their memories are remembered and kept.

When I’m with them the joy turns double

And in times of doubt they offer me hope.

In my frailties they refuse to mumble —

Helping hands present when heavier came each load.

Jesus lifts up my banner,

My friends lift up my hands;

They are more than encouragement

As we enter the Promised Land.

I’ll never run out of reasons to thank the Lord

For friends who always warm my life;

They may not be perfect, so am I,

But as long as they’re present, I know life’s worthwhile.

Originally written: 11.29.11

(c) Facebook birthday greeting

Malaking shout-outs muna!

I would like to express my sincerest appreciation to all the people who remembered me on my birthday, especially those greeted me personally, those who called, who texted, messaged me via PM on Facebook or posted their greeting on my timeline. I may not be able to name you all but you know who you are! May God bless you all richly.

I feel so blessed hearing commendations from people who appreciate my craft in writing, though there are times I’m think that I do not have an audience in the genre I am writing about. For those who read my blogs, my sincerest thanks! It is my utmost desire to minister with every poem, with every hugot, with every reflection, with every personal testimony and experiences, and with every blog I post here and in my other blog –



To the One who has set me free

At the cross you’ve shown me
A perfect love that has set me free.

No costly gifts to give,
No sumptuous food to share.
Only my praises to offer
With nothing else to spare.

A simple poem is all I have,
Words that came from within.
But still words aren’t enough
To express gratitude for forgiving my sins.

What more shall I offer
When you own everything?
Though I give my all
For you, would it mean a thing?

At the cross you’ve shown me
A perfect love that has set me free.
Sacrifices from me you do not ask
You just want me to accept Your love that will ever last.