BASAG: A book launch with a dose of #feels

“Acting strong and tough ka pero deep inside, basag na basag ka na”

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An afternoon of words and music, of numerous hugot and an inspiring story of an individual marred by heartbreak but made whole again by the grace of God. Mula sa pagiging BASAG hanggang sa pagiging buo muli. Yan ang inspiring story ni Ate Prexy Calvario, condensed in a small book guaranteed to help those who are in the process of moving on from a painful breakup. Ang mga kwento sa likod ng libro ang naging highlight ng book launching event na ginanap sa OMF Literature bookstore on May 27, syempre coupled with spoken word poetry and acoustic music.

Sino nga ba naman ang hindi makaka-relate sa mga kwentong heartbreaks at hiwalayan? Maliban na lang kung kabilang ka sa mga taong hindi pa nakakaranas na lumuha dahil sa pag-ibig, ang pagiging brokenhearted ay isang estado sa ating buhay pag-ibig kung saan acting strong and tough ka pero deep inside, basag na basag ka na. Yung one day, decided ka na to let go of the past pero marinig mo lang ang theme song niyo, cry to death ka na naman. Mahirap talaga kapag brokenhearted! Kaya naman blessing ang book ni Ate Prexy sa mga miyembro ng Moving On community.

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Ate Prexy sharing personal stories behind the book

During the book launching event, may ilang realizations lang akong napulot:

  1. Kagaya ng ex mo na hindi nagpahalaga sayo, your pain, too, shall pass. Hindi yan kagaya ng Motolite na pang-matagalan. Makaka-move on ka rin, promise. Unless mag-decide ka na magtampisaw sa sakit at bitterness, with determination and by God’s grace for sure babalik din ang ngiti sa mga labi mo.
  2. Unlike your ex na puro lang pangakong napako, asahan mo na sa moving on journey mo ay may mga promises si Lord na tutuparin Niya – that is, He will see you through. He will strengthen you. He will help you recover. He will always be there for you to give you comfort and peace. And during such time of emotional recovery, you will realize He is all you will ever need.
  3. After the ordeal of being heartbroken, you are now ready to be a blessing to others in need of encouragement and support. Magiging instant counselor ka sa mga dumadaan sa masalimuot na landas ng pagmo-move on. Maaari ka nilang maging gabay, huhugot sila sayo ng inspirasyon na kung kinaya mo, kaya rin nila. Kagaya ni Ate Prexy at ng kanyang libro, you can be the answer to their emotional need, hindi kagaya ng ex mo na kapag may need lang magaling.
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Syempre I took the opportunity to have my copy signed by the author 🙂

I am privileged to somehow endorse the book sa aking personal blog page, at nagtataka ako bakit may mga HAHA reactions sa facebook posts ko. Sa pagtatanong ko, nakuha ko ang sagot: oo nga naman, napaka-catchy kasi ng title ng libro, napaka-light, pang-masa – lahat tayo makaka-relate. Hindi lang basta broken, BASAG. Worse than being in pain, kundi BASAG. Uncommon for a published book title pero malaking tulong sa common emotional pains ng tao. No holds barred ika nga. BASAG kung BASAG. Wala nang kyeme. After all, totoo namang BASAG tayo nung huli tayong nasaktan di ba?

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Prior to this blog post, I have also written a review of the book in this link: http://bit.ly/2lH6J22

Taken from the back cover blurb of the book, let Ate Prexy do the pitch:

How about taking a special course condensed in this small book? Dahil nakagraduate na ako sa pagiging brokenhearted, baka sakaling matulungan kita. “Been there, done that” ang peg ko. Sabi ng iba, time heals all wounds. Ang totoo, God heals, in time. Through my story, let me tell you how.

BASAG: Bachelor in Nursing a Broken Heart, Major in Moving On is available for only P75. Look for the book at OMF Lit Bookshops, Passages Bookshops, Philippine Christian Bookstores, National Book Stores and other leading bookstores nationwide. You can also order online at www.passagesbooks.com.ph.

Stand Up, Walk On

Our purpose in life doesn’t cease when we fail.

  • On your way home, because of the heavy traffic, you got no choice but to take a detour and pass by a place you don’t want to remember anymore.
  • You met a high school friend you’ve not seen for years and as you try to catch up with each other stories, she popped the question you are praying she’d never ask.
  • Your mother decides to turn your room upside down and while doing so, she brought to you things you have no idea that are still in your possession.

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Some things happen by choice, while some things happen because it is bound to happen. Moreover, some things happen because we are the ones who lit the match in the first place, unaware of the fire that is about to let loose. Unlike God, we are not omniscient to know what will be the ultimate result of every action and decision we make. We are finite beings vulnerable to making bad decisions, leading to inescapable consequences. No matter how hard we try to guess and second guess things, we can never predict what will happen next. Even our best intentions are subject to God’s divine intervention.

So the unavoidable happens. We get hurt. We stumble and fall.

The castle we’ve been shaping and building in our mind crumbles and we end up feeling defeated and sorry for ourselves. We regret all the decisions we have made which led to our “downfall”. We analyze and think about where have we gone wrong in the process and what have we done to deserve such. And then the negative creeps into our system, blurring our view of life.

While we cannot filter what comes into our mind when we remember the horrific yesterdays we might have, we can choose not to be affected by such thoughts. We can opt not to accept our mistakes and our regrets to shape our identity.

Those who have made a mistake in the past, or even those who were wronged by insensitive people, those who cannot overcome the crumbling of their castle into pieces because some undesired cause, are facing the crossroad of choice – do I have to remain sorry for what happened, living with regrets? Or should I move on and just brush things off?

Unfortunately, some choose to wallow in the defeat-mentality, and continue being victimized by their past.

While we cannot filter what comes into our mind when we remember the horrific yesterdays we might have, we can choose not to be affected by such thoughts. We can opt not to accept our mistakes and our regrets to shape our identity.

Our purpose in life doesn’t cease when we fail; rather we are just experiencing a sudden halt, a stopover. Perhaps God is realigning your life for a higher calling, or He is causing you to stop because you’ve been running too fast, or maybe you are messing up your priorities, or His priorities for you. Whatever the reason is, you fail but you don’t have to remain a failure.

If you think you are caught up in the trap of defeat-mentality, I encourage you to stand up on your feet and take up your hopes for the future. Life still goes on. Walk on.