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How Waiting Benefits Us

May hinihintay ka ba? Seize this moment to savor the benefits of waiting.

As I am writing this piece, I am waiting for some things to happen:

  • Naghihintay ako ng isang major news for a major project I am working on.
  • Naghihintay ako ng weekend para makanood ng Kita Kita, dahil sobra na akong nai-spoil sa mga feeds sa timeline ko.
  • Naghihintay ako for that ‘great idea’ para marami na ako ulit na masulat dito sa blog kong ito.
  • I’m playing “Last Day on Earth” sa android phone ko at hinihintay kong matapos yung ‘walking time’ ng character ko.
  • Dahil kakatapos lang ng payday, hinihintay ko ulit yung susunod.
  • Ok, hinihintay ko siya. Hahaha!

How Waiting Benefits UsHonestly and modesty aside, alam ko na mahaba ang pisi ko when it comes to waiting. Pero syempre may mga araw at pagkakataon rin talaga na napipigtas din ang pisi ko. Naiinip rin ako, lalo na kung ang usapan ay mabagal na download speed ng internet! Naku, sobrang nakakainip at nakakainis yan.

Pero I know of some people na sobra-sobrang mainipin. Yung hindi mapakali kapag napirme sila sa isang lugar. Nagbigay ka na ng limang minuto at sigurado ka naman na dadating within that span of time, pero still, maiinip at maiinip pa rin sila.

Minsan may nakasabay kaming kumain sa isang ‘paluto’ food place. Dahil peak hours at maraming tao masyado, obviously matagal ang service. Pero after an hour of waiting, o higit pa siguro, iba na ang naging timpla ng lalaki. Nagmumura na siya, nanggagalaiti sa galit. Medyo cringe moment kasi nasa harapan ko siya. Ako rin naman sobrang naiinip na sa sobrang tagal ng order namin, pero hindi yata kaya ng powers ko ang magsisigaw sa isang public place.

O siguro kanya-kanya lang talaga ng tolerance yan. Ako kasi, I always have a book handy sa mga panahong napapalaban ako sa hintayan. Bawas bagot, bawas lungkot.

Pero bakit nga kaya may mga waiting season tayo? Like sa prayers. Bakit kailangan pa nating maghintay e alam naman na ni Lord ang mga laman ng puso natin. Tapos makapangyarihan pa Siya. Bakit kailangang umabot pa tayo sa mga pagkakataon na halos mag-breakdown na tayo sa paghihintay? Pero syempre, tanong ko, sagot ko. Haha! Here are some of my reflections while I am right here, in front of my laptop, waiting.

Waiting frees us time to do other things

In my case, habang naghihintay ng susunod na activity, nagawa kong magsulat. Bagay na hindi ko masyadong magawa lately sa sobrang kabusy-han. Kagaya rin ng nabanggit ko kanina, ang paghihintay ay panahon ko to catch up on my reading. Waiting time is actually a breather. Nasubukan mo na bang matagalan sa pila para makapagdeposit sa banko? Actually time ko yun para makapag-relax sa araw-araw kong pag-upo sa office. Hindi naman masama ang paghihintay, pero syempre I don’t want to be hypocritical na gusto ko talaga na palaging maghintay.

Waiting time is actually a breather… It gives us a pause.

Pero come to think of it: waiting gives us a sudden break from what doing successive things. It gives us a pause. Para hindi ka naman ma-umay sa buhay.

Waiting reveals something in us

During those times na sobrang inip na inip ako, lumalabas ang attitude ko pagdating sa isang bagay. Halimbawa na lang kapag sobrang bagal ng internet, tapos totally mawawalan talaga ako ng connection, naku buong araw talaga na naiinis ako. Sa isip ko sobrang galit na galit ako sa mga network providers for giving us crappy service. Pero sa totoo lang, I know in my heart na kaya ko naman tumagal kahit walang internet.

Kapag naghihintay tayo at naiinip, minsan nakakagawa tayo ng mga bagay na nagbibigay ng clue sa ating mga priorities. Siguro in my case, may mild case ako ng FOMO (Fear of Missing Out). Kaya saludo ako sa mga singles na marunong maghintay e, kasi it just proves na their priorities in life far exceeds their desire for romantic relationship.

Waiting strengthens our faith in what is to come

Nothing purifies our faith best than the season of waiting. Si Father Abraham, ang tagal ng hinintay niya bago siya biyayaan ng anak – umabot muna siya ng 100 years old!

More than doing things to fit into your schedule while waiting, mas magandang madevelop ang ating faith and hope na “He who promised can be trusted”.

Si Jacob, naghintay ng 7 years (plus 7 years ulit para maging totally legit) bago makuha ang pinakamamahal niyang si Rachel.  Si Jesus din, naghintay muna ng 30 years bago tuluyang mag-embark sa kanyang public ministry. Faith is tested and purified through seasons of waiting.

More than doing things to fit into your schedule while waiting, mas magandang madevelop ang ating faith and hope na “He who promised can be trusted”. May mga pangako si Lord sa atin na kailangan nating hintayin ang katuparan. And while waiting, anong dapat nating maging attitude? Dapat mas nagiging dependent tayo kay Lord, mas nagiging excited tayo kay Lord, at higit sa lahat dapat mas nagiging faithful tayo kay Lord. At ang paghihintay natin ang magde-determine kung ganito nga ba ang nagiging attitude natin sa Kanya. We should love Him more than His gifts and promises. We should love Him for who He is.

May hinihintay ka ba? Seize this moment to savor the benefits of waiting.

Ok, balik na ako sa android game ko J

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Unspoken Rules on Social Media

Masaya sa mundo ng social media. Pero let us not deviate from its intended purpose, yung maging mas connected tayo sa isa’t isa.

No one can argue how instrumental and monumental social media is sa lahat ng areas ng buhay natin. I grew up in a time na wala pang Facebook at dial-up pa ang internet connection, pero parang hindi ko na yata ma-imagine pa na bumalik sa panahong iyon. Ay wait, i-qualify ko yung sinabi ko. Haha! Siguro yung simplicity ng buhay noon gusto kong balikan, pero pagdating sa mga “tools of the trade” at mga productivity features of today’s technology, malaking tulong talaga.

Unspoken Rules on Social MediaSabi nga, the greater the opportunity for good, the greater the opportunity for evil. Ang bilis ng transfer ng information ngayon. And information comes in different faces – good news, bad news, depressing, informative, cringe-worthy, motivating, etc. Minsan pa nga, detrimental pa to the welfare of others. We live in the era of information right before our tiny screens. Ang tanong lang ay kung paano natin ginagamit ang mga information na ito? Nakakalunod ano? Ang social media na dapat sana ay for “socialization and connection purposes” ay nahahaluan na rin ng kalokohan.

​How do we make the most out of the blessings of technology, particularly that of social media? Meron akong ilang practical tips:

  1. Kumustahin mo rin, wag puro Everwing

I play Everwing, yung bagong game na kinaka-adikan ng marami. Ang catch lang ay kailangan mo pang mag-send ng “play with” message or “challenge” sa mga online friends mo para mas ma-enjoy mo yung game. Kaya naman maraming chat boxes ang napupuno na ng mga Everwing messages. Pati yung mga online friends mo na matagal mo nang hindi nakakausap biglang nag-pop up ang chat bubble dahil sa Everwing request niya. Maraming patay na GC rin ang muling nabuhay. Haha! Pero magandang opportunity to to reach out your long lost friends and catch up with GCs. Makipagkwentuhan ka rin, wag lang flood ng Everwing. Mas enjoy makipag-compete ng scores with friends kaysa naman mainis sila sayo kasi ang kulit-kulit mo. Invite them to play with you, hindi yung binubulabog mo lang ang messenger nila. Haha! 🙂 At sa mga nakukulitan sa akin, sorry po. Laro tayo. Hehe!

  1. Magrerespond ng “going” tapos biglang drawing? Wag ganun.

Maraming pagkakaibigan ang nasisira dito. Kung hindi ka pa naman sure na makakasama sa lakad ng barkada, wag ka nang masyadong magpabida at magsabing sure ka na. Wag kang masyadong paasa. Update the group, kasi effort kaya mag-prepare at magplano. Wag kang basta mawawala kapag malapit na ang usapan. Be honest and transparent, nakakasira yan ng integridad. Pero honestly, wala naman akong hugot, promise. Hahaha!

  1. Cooperate din sa GC para sa huli hindi ka masisi.

Gawain ko na i-turn off ang notifications ng mga group chats where I belong. Madali kasi akong ma-distract sa dami ng messages at nao-overwhelm ako kapag sobrang haba na ng kailangan kong i-backread. Pero try to keep up with the conversation pa rin. Lalo na kung kailangan mong ma-update sa mahahalagang discussions ng group kagaya ng anong oras ang lakad, magkano ang contribution at sino ang magdadala ng pagkain. Kung hindi ka updated, at hindi ka rin marunong magtanong, naku baka masisi ka sa huli.

  1. Wag mo silang inisin sa hobby mong pangsi-“seen”

Same with No. 3, maraming puso ang nasasaktan sa mga hugot at jokes nila na hindi mo naman pinapansin. Sayang effort. Huhu.

  1. Kung alam mo nang may pambubully, wag ka nang sumali

Sa dami ng mga status posts, videos at pictures na kumakalat online, hindi maiiwasan na maraming mga private individuals ang naco-compromise at nauuwi pa nga sa bullying. If you think na hindi na maganda at nakakasakit na, wag ka nang makigaya pa sa iba. Hindi mo lang alam how does a person feel kung ang lahat sa social media ay may hindi magandang sinasabi tungkol sa kanya. Don’t be an accomplice to bullying.

  1. Magtimpi kahit kaunti. Hindi lahat ng drama nilalabas sa social media.

May iba sa atin hindi makapigil sa sarili, lahat na lang sa social media sinasabi. Remember that whatever you put in social media ay maaaring makapukaw ng interest ng public. Kung hindi ka handa sa mga comments ng iba, aba’y magtimpi ka. Given na page mo yan at walang pwedeng pumigil sa mga gusto mong i-post online, pero be more responsible at aware sa mga maaari mong ma-fish na comments. Sige ka, ikaw rin. Pero friendly advice: hindi lahat gusto ng drama palagi ang nababasa.

  1. Be wise. Ang taong gullible, sa fake news mapagpatol.

Ang daming fake news online grabe! Pero ang mas marami, yung nagse-share ng fake news. Hahaha. Pwede ba tayong maging mas matalino sa pagdi-disseminate ng information online? Don’t just base on the clickbait headlines. Basahin rin ang contents. Verify with credible sources kung totoo ang balita. Be responsible online. Wag maging gullible.

Masaya sa mundo ng social media. Pero let us not deviate from its intended purpose, yung maging mas connected tayo sa isa’t isa. Maraming away at divisions ang nabubuo from the very thing that should connect us. Maging mas wise at responsible tayo as we behave online.

 

 

Get to Know the Temperaments

We all need each other. We complement each other.

Personality Plus, written by Florence Littauer, is the first book I’ve read in years about personality development and ‘psychology’-related. Madalas kong naririnig yung tungkol sa mga “Sanguine”, “Choleric”, “Melancholic” at “Phlegmatic” pero wala akong idea dito bukod sa lahat ng mga ito ay tunog malubhang sakit.

Personality PlusLittauer discussed the four temperaments with much detail and rich illustrations na sobrang nakarelate talaga ako. Tawa ako nang tawa kasi her descriptions are with so much accuracy while exposing my weaknesses as if close na close kami. Nang-aano siya e. Haha! Yep, you read it right. Temperaments ang tawag sa mga nabanggit ko at hindi sila mga karamdaman. In fact, lahat tayo ay nabibilang sa isa sa mga yan. Allow me to share my insights based on how I understood the book.

Sanguine: Sila yung mga outspoken, life of the party. Sila yung typical na makwento at walang dull moments kapag kasama mo sila. Usually sila yung mga ginagawa niyong host sa mga school at office programs, yung bumabangka ng kwento, at sobrang animated kapag nagbibida ng mga recent travel photos niya at OOTDs. Ang dami rin nilang gustong gawing projects! Kaya madalas gusto nilang maging president ng klase, o kaya leader ng organization. And they win! Hindi dahil sa magaling sila, usually dahil sikat sila. Ang usual downside nila – OA. Minsan may pagka-exaggerated na ang kwento na hindi na kapani-paniwala – only to amuse their listeners. Para sa kanila, malaking dagok sa buhay kapag hindi na sila napapansin ng mga tao at ang atensyon ng marami ay nawala na sa kanila.

Melancholic: Sila naman yung mga taong polar opposite ng mga Sanguine. Sila yung usually tahimik, ayaw sa limelight, mahiyain at gusto nasa sulok lang sila. Hindi sila fan ng attention. Usually rin, sila ang mga artistic at detail-oriented. Sobrang galing nila sa analysis at matindi ang kanilang critical thinking skills. They are the ones who writes good novels and creates astounding paintings and soulful music. Kung may kilala ka na sobrang by the detail ang pag-iisip, yung ang maraming nakikitang angles na hindi mo nakikita, most probably melancholic siya. Their downside, however, is that they easily get depressed. Ayaw nila na napapahiya sila. Ayaw nila na yung plano nila ay pumapalpak at nasisisi sila. They are typical pessimists – seeing the world with dark lenses. Masyadong emo.

TemperamentsCholeric: Sila naman yung mga leader type. Strong ang personality ng mga choleric. They want things to be done, their way. Walang makakapigil sa kanila. They are most likely to climb the corporate ladder kasi they are so determined to be on top. May kakilala ka bang gagawin ang lahat para sa kanyang mga pangarap? Baka naman choleric siya, bes. Pero wala naman siyang cholera, don’t worry. Haha! If you want results, you can depend on someone who is choleric. Ang kaso lang, sa sobrang passionate niya to accomplish something, hindi niya napapansin marami na siyang nababanggang tao along the way. He wants control, and he wants it now. May pagka-bossy at demanding. Pero keri lang daw, basta umaakyat siya ng level.

Phlegmatic. Sila naman yung mga passive ang personality, the polar opposite of choleric. Napaka-peaceful ng personality nila, kaya naman you would love to hang-out with someone who’s phlegmatic. Kung may problema ka at kailangan mo ng kaibigang willing makinig, perfect companion sila. Hindi sila magrereklamo, patient sila masyado sa mga kwento mong walang tapos. Best friend ng taon. Sila din yung mga sobrang relaxed na personality na nagkakagulo na ang lahat, kalmado pa rin. Hindi naman sa wala siyang pakialam, hindi lang niya feel mapagod. Which is his downside. Sobrang passive niya and indecisive, and people thinks na wala siyang concern sa paligid niya. Kapag tinanong mo, ang typical niyang sagot “ikaw na bahala” o kaya “kahit ano, saan”. Ang reason niya for this, ayaw niyang pangunahan ang iba. His indecisiveness can also lead to katamaran, mañana, at lahat nang pwede mo pang idagdag dito.

Would you like to know what your temperament is? Take this simple test online.

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I am a phlegmatic, which is obvious kung kilala mo ako personally. Actually, nakaka-amaze how these personality types, or temperaments sheds light on how we can effectively relate with other. After reading the book, narealize ko, sometimes the problem is not in our differences, but our limited understanding of our differences. TBH hindi ko masyadong type ang mga taong malakas ang dating, aka choleric. Since phlegmatic nga ako, I feel uncomfortable when someone with a strong personality bosses me around as if I’m to no good. Pero looking beyond their “lakas ng dating” I realized that it’s just the way they are wired.

We all have differences. But we can always find something to share together. We can always learn from each other. Our differences are intended not to build a wall between us, but to make interactions more lively and engaging.

If I extend my patience and my understanding to these kind of people, maybe we can go along well. And true enough, nagagamit ko ang temperaments na ito sa aking mga relationships – friends and others. I see them through the four-fold lens of temperaments and I learn how to approach them, make them feel secured and loved.

We all have differences. But we can always find something to share together. We can always learn from each other. Our differences are intended not to build a wall between us, but to make interactions more lively and engaging. I can’t imagine how my life would be kung ang lahat ng tao sa paligid ko ay kapwa ko phlegmatic – eh di wala nang nangyari, wala nang natapos na project. We all need each other. We complement each other.

Ikaw, what is your temperament?

Learning Curve

Never stop yearning, never stop learning.

Ang learning curve ay ang panahong kinakailangan upang matutunan ang isang bagay. Halimbawa, kung ikaw ay nasanay na gumamit ng isang android phone mula nang panahong nakahawak ka ng smartphone, tapos all of a sudden bigla kang gagamit ng iPhone, medyo maninibago ka muna. Ang panahon na ginugol mo upang matutunang i-navigate with ease ang bago mong gadget ay ang learning curve. Mas mabilis, mas magaling. Kung para sa mga kabataan ay hindi naman issue ang pagpapalit ng from android to iOS, para sa mga mahal nating tanders, it takes effort and a lot of adjustment.

The Learning CurveLike what my teacher did just recently, I would also like to quote Albert Einsten (though may mga discussions over the internet kung siya ba talaga ang nagsabi nito) on his definition of insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. This pierced my heart. I am on the look out to do greater things, to accomplish more – things I have never achieved since I began to exist. Pero looking back, parang hindi naman ako masyadong umuusad. I assessed myself spot on: anong pinaggagawa ko sa buhay ko? Steep ba talaga ang learning curve ko?

It seems like we don’t learn from our mistakes, we just look at it as if we have the luxury of time and emotions to go through it again. Masyadong steep ang learning curve.

How many of us learn things the hard way? Yung tipong sobrang tagal na nang panahon na ginugol mo sa isang challenge sa buhay mo, pero tuwing binabalikan ka nito, parang hindi ka na natuto. Na-scam ka na dati, tapos nagpa-scam ka ulit ngayon. Sinaktan ka na dati, you fell for the same tricks ulit. Na-sampolan ka na na mahirap magpa-exam ang professor, pero hindi ka pa rin nag-review the second time around. It’s a vicious cycle. It seems like we don’t learn from our mistakes, we just look at it as if we have the luxury of time and emotions to go through it again. Masyadong steep ang learning curve. Ganito ka rin ba?

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We are all like the nation of Israel. They’ve been through a lot, literally. Binigyan ng promise, nag-fail. Bumangon, nag-fail. They went through slavery, oppression, captivity, famine, and defeat – consequences of the same mistake they have the inclination to enjoy: idolatry. Kapag nae-encounter ko sa Bible ang malungkot na cycle ng downfall and rising up nila, I usually ask the Lord, “bakit ang kulit nila”? Pero all along I know, I’m no different from them. Makulit din ako.

But the good news is that no matter how steep our learning curve is, God’s love is more stubborn than our worst stubbornness. And I’m saying this on a positive note! God is very patient with us no matter how slow we are to learn. Mabuti na lang! Otherwise, wala na tayong pag-asa. If God has been patient with the nation of Israel, He will also be patient with us. It doesn’t matter kahit makupad ka, as long as you’re aiming for improvement. Kung madalas kang madapa at matagal bago matuto, tuloy lang.

What defines us is not our mistakes kahit gaano kadalas, in the eyes of the Lord, He honors our commitment to learn from Him.

Mas profitable pa rin yun kaysa sumuko. Only the Lord can bring you out of the vicious cycle as long as you are willing to let Him. In the end, what defines us is not our mistakes kahit gaano kadalas, in the eyes of the Lord, He honors our commitment to learn from Him.

How steep is your learning curve? Matalas ka pa rin ba at madaling matuto? O like me, pumupurol nang medyo? Whatever the rate is, never stop yearning, never stop learning.

Pagod ka na ba?

“Napagtagumpayan ko na ito dati, ngayon pa ba ako susuko?”

We all have felt tired and downcast at times. Probably ngayon yung moment na yun para sayo. Season ito marahil na gusto mo nang isuko ang mga bagay na pinaghirapan mo mula noong una. Doubts may have crept upon and you begin to question your calling. Gusto mo nang umayaw.

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However there’s a voice telling you to remain strong, that help is on the way. Minsan pa, pinipilit mong kumapit sa pananampalatayang “napagtagumpayan ko na ito dati, ngayon pa ba ako susuko?” Totoo naman, kung babalikan mo naman ang naging spiritual walk mo, hindi naman nagkulang ang Panginoon; hindi ka naman iniwan o pinabayaan.

In times like these, we often run frantically searching for answers. Gusto natin madaliang solusyon sa kalungkutan, sa spiritual exhaustion and drought na nararanasan natin. Sa mga ganitong panahon na tayo’y nakakaramdam na tila pagod ka na at wala nang pag-asa, I would like to share a few insights on how to fight your battle kahit na wounded ka na. Hindi ito formula guaranteed to get you through but it might help you greatly just as it helped me and many others.

Be silent before the Lord.

To be silent means to not speak. Pero minsan, this may mean to just free your mind from all your worries. Hindi ka nga nagsasalita pero sa isip mo ang daming mga alalahanin ang naglalaro. What if ganito, what if ganyan? Yung tipong kapag binigyan ng microphone ang isip mo hindi ito matatapos nang kakasalita. Start with silence. Oftentimes, much of our worries come from the unnecessary noise around us, at dun tayo napapagod. So begin with shutting your mouth and your mind for a moment and let the noise of the world just die within your thoughts. Forget about your deadlines for a while. Kalimutan mo muna lahat ng problema mo nang sandali. You will be amazed how relaxing this will be.

Wait upon the Lord.

Ayaw natin na naghihintay. We want quick-fixes sa ating mga problema. Kung kulang, we want to be filled agad-agad. Waiting is a waste of time para sa atin. We selfishly thrive on instant gratification. Pero si Lord, hindi lang ang “bunga” ang concern Niya, He cares as well sa process. May mga pagkakataon na maaari namang tugunin ni Lord ang mga panalangin natin agad in His power pero He waits for the “kairos” time para sa lahat. Waiting is a virtue that develops our faith. Our faith is tested and strengthened when we have to wait for something for a longer time. Kaya we need to wait upon Him. As you remain silent before Him, wait upon Him. Wag kang mainip kung pakiramdam mo napakatagal – while you are waiting patiently upon Him, He is actually intently looking after you.

Listen unto the Lord.

Madalas kapag nananalangin tayo, we do much of the talking ‘di ba? Lord, pahingi po ng ganito, sana po ganyan… This time practice the lost art of listening. Listen to the still, small voice of the Holy Spirit within you. However, you can only listen intently kapag silent ka before the Lord. Sabi nga ng librong nabasa ko, we can hardly hold on to what we never hear. So paano mo maiintindihan ang sinasabi ng Panginoon kung hindi ka naman talaga makikinig? Listen, and let Him do the talking.

God has already laid down His message to us in the Bible and yet God is never limited in His ways to communicate with His children, only we need to intently listen.

God speaks. Masyado lang kasi tayong masalita kaya hindi natin Siya madalas naririnig. You will be amazed sa mga paraan Niya kung paanong sumagot: through nature, through a song, through a memory na pinaalala Niya sayo, through a verse na nabasa mo sa Bible, or even through a person who just uttered something na naka-encourage sayo. This is of course not to be mistaken as over-spiritualizing things. God has already laid down His message to us in the Bible and yet God is never limited in His ways to communicate with His children, only we need to intently listen. Always confirm whatever you hear from Him in the context of His written Word.

Take rest in the Lord.

Nakakita ka na ba ng isang baby na natutulog? Di ba ang peaceful niyang tignan? Lalo na kung pinaghehele siya ng kanyang ama o ina, sobrang relaxing ng scenario. Imagine yourself to be a baby, at ang Panginoon ang iyong Ama na naghehele sayo. Will you be need anything, knowing that the Creator of heavens and earth carries you in His arms? Whatever message you have received in the Lord as you wait upon Him, take rest in that message. Panghawakan mo. Make it THE source of your strength. Ang sabi nga sa Psalms, God is an ever-present help in times of trouble. Kahit kapaguran man yan o pag-aalala, He is always present to give help. Find rest in Him and let Him fight your battles.

I would like to share a very familiar passage which has strengthened me just recently:

Have you not known? Have you not heard? The Lord is the everlasting God, the Creator of the ends of the earth. He does not faint or grow weary; his understanding is unsearchable. He gives power to the faint, and to him who has no might he increases strength. Even youths shall faint and be weary, and young men shall fall exhausted; but they who wait for the Lord shall renew their strength; they shall mount up with wings like eagles; they shall run and not be weary; they shall walk and not faint. Isaiah 40:28-31

Find strength in the Lord. He is waiting for you, and is always ready to receive you. May you find rest and strength for your soul now, dear reader!

BASAG: A book launch with a dose of #feels

“Acting strong and tough ka pero deep inside, basag na basag ka na”

An afternoon of words and music, of numerous hugot and an inspiring story of an individual marred by heartbreak but made whole again by the grace of God. Mula sa pagiging BASAG hanggang sa pagiging buo muli. Yan ang inspiring story ni Ate Prexy Calvario, condensed in a small book guaranteed to help those who are in the process of moving on from a painful breakup. Ang mga kwento sa likod ng libro ang naging highlight ng book launching event na ginanap sa OMF Literature bookstore on May 27, syempre coupled with spoken word poetry and acoustic music.

Sino nga ba naman ang hindi makaka-relate sa mga kwentong heartbreaks at hiwalayan? Maliban na lang kung kabilang ka sa mga taong hindi pa nakakaranas na lumuha dahil sa pag-ibig, ang pagiging brokenhearted ay isang estado sa ating buhay pag-ibig kung saan acting strong and tough ka pero deep inside, basag na basag ka na. Yung one day, decided ka na to let go of the past pero marinig mo lang ang theme song niyo, cry to death ka na naman. Mahirap talaga kapag brokenhearted! Kaya naman blessing ang book ni Ate Prexy sa mga miyembro ng Moving On community.

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Ate Prexy sharing personal stories behind the book

During the book launching event, may ilang realizations lang akong napulot:

  1. Kagaya ng ex mo na hindi nagpahalaga sayo, your pain, too, shall pass. Hindi yan kagaya ng Motolite na pang-matagalan. Makaka-move on ka rin, promise. Unless mag-decide ka na magtampisaw sa sakit at bitterness, with determination and by God’s grace for sure babalik din ang ngiti sa mga labi mo.
  2. Unlike your ex na puro lang pangakong napako, asahan mo na sa moving on journey mo ay may mga promises si Lord na tutuparin Niya – that is, He will see you through. He will strengthen you. He will help you recover. He will always be there for you to give you comfort and peace. And during such time of emotional recovery, you will realize He is all you will ever need.
  3. After the ordeal of being heartbroken, you are now ready to be a blessing to others in need of encouragement and support. Magiging instant counselor ka sa mga dumadaan sa masalimuot na landas ng pagmo-move on. Maaari ka nilang maging gabay, huhugot sila sayo ng inspirasyon na kung kinaya mo, kaya rin nila. Kagaya ni Ate Prexy at ng kanyang libro, you can be the answer to their emotional need, hindi kagaya ng ex mo na kapag may need lang magaling.
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Syempre I took the opportunity to have my copy signed by the author 🙂

I am privileged to somehow endorse the book sa aking personal blog page, at nagtataka ako bakit may mga HAHA reactions sa facebook posts ko. Sa pagtatanong ko, nakuha ko ang sagot: oo nga naman, napaka-catchy kasi ng title ng libro, napaka-light, pang-masa – lahat tayo makaka-relate. Hindi lang basta broken, BASAG. Worse than being in pain, kundi BASAG. Uncommon for a published book title pero malaking tulong sa common emotional pains ng tao. No holds barred ika nga. BASAG kung BASAG. Wala nang kyeme. After all, totoo namang BASAG tayo nung huli tayong nasaktan di ba?

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Prior to this blog post, I have also written a review of the book in this link: http://bit.ly/2lH6J22

Taken from the back cover blurb of the book, let Ate Prexy do the pitch:

How about taking a special course condensed in this small book? Dahil nakagraduate na ako sa pagiging brokenhearted, baka sakaling matulungan kita. “Been there, done that” ang peg ko. Sabi ng iba, time heals all wounds. Ang totoo, God heals, in time. Through my story, let me tell you how.

BASAG: Bachelor in Nursing a Broken Heart, Major in Moving On is available for only P75. Look for the book at OMF Lit Bookshops, Passages Bookshops, Philippine Christian Bookstores, National Book Stores and other leading bookstores nationwide. You can also order online at www.passagesbooks.com.ph.

Blessed and my 13 Reasons Why

May mga pagkakataon na gusto ko na lang talagang sumuko. Nakakapagod, nakakasawa.

Hindi lang makailang ulit kong binabanggit sa sarili ko na sobrang stressed ko na para magpatuloy. May mga pagkakataon na gusto ko na lang talagang sumuko. Nakakapagod, nakakasawa. Siguro kaya may mga taong pinipili na lang na wakasan ang kanilang buhay kasi hindi na nila kinakaya ang bigat ng kanilang nararamdaman.

13 Reasons Why

In my case, before I even get consumed with my stressful situations in life, with all my worries and fears for tomorrow, I try to diffuse negativities and lies and replace such with truths. I am blessed beyond measure! Maraming dahilan kung bakit dapat tayong magpatuloy. Maraming dahilan para hindi tayo sumuko. I strive to push on with life and let me share my 13 reasons why:

Just this morning, you were able to breathe in life

Pagmulat pa lang ng mata mo, late ka man nagising o sobrang aga, hindi ba magandang isipin na another blank page has been flipped sa pages ng buhay mo, and you are now ready to take the pen and write your own story? Ang haba ng sinabi ko, pero yun na nga. Ang paggising mo sa umaga ay isa nang dahilan para maging mapagpasalamat dahil…

Over the night, no harm fell upon you

May mga taong natulog lang pero hindi na inabutan ng umaga. Maaaring inatake ng sakit, o nadisgrasya habang natutulog, inabutan ng sakuna, trahedya o kung anumang dahilan. Bottom line is, their time is up. Pero ikaw, hindi pa! You are blessed kasi you were given something na hindi na ipinagkaloob sa kanila, kagaya ng…

1 more chance to tell your loved ones, I love you

At the final curtain of life, it is not the amount of money or achievements or earthly investments ang hahanapin natin at papangarapin nating katabi sa tuwina, kundi ang ating mga mahal sa buhay. Unfortunately, marami ang inaabutan na ng panghihina ng katawan o ng mismong kamatayan ngunit hindi man lang nasasabi na mahal nila ang kanilang mga magulang, kapatid, asawa o mga anak. Kaya ngayon pa lang, isipin mo na you are blessed to be given this chance to tell them you love them!

Listen to the sound of nature

Subukan mong pakinggan ang huni ng mga ibon, o ang agos ng ilog. Mahirap ito kapag nasa city ka kung saan maraming ingay, pero pakinggan mo lang ang ihip ng hangin, damhin ang init ng araw. They are telling us a message – they exist to serve their purpose! Kung ang init ng araw, ang simoy ng hangin, at ang kabuuan ng kalikasan ay may purpose sa mundo, how much more ikaw na anak ng Diyos? Kaya sa susunod na iisipin mo na wala ka nang pag-asa, why not listen to the sound of nature?

Add friends and meet new acquaintances

Isa sa mga blessings na dala ng panibagong araw ay ang pagkakataon na madagdagan ang ating mga kaibigan at mga kakilala. Blessing yun! Imagine kung iilan lang ang tao sa mundo, o kung ikaw lang kaya mag-isa sa mundo, di ba ang lungkot nun? Friends and acquaintances make our lives easy. Kapag may nakikita tayong nakangiti, masaya ang countenance, nahahawa tayo. Kung medyo badtrip naman sila, napapaisip naman tayo kung paano ba natin gugugulin ang buong araw natin, kagaya din ba nilang badtrip din? Malay mo, nasa paligid mo lang ang tulong na hinihintay mo, galing sa taong hindi mo minsang inakalang aalalay pala sayo.

New learning and experiences

Ang mga experiences na pagdadaanan mo ay ang siyang nagiging launch pad mo for greater opportunities ahead. Remember, experiences, whether good or bad, makes us who we are now. Ang tanong lang ay sa nagiging mas bitter ka ba or better? You can always choose the latter.

Bukod sa mga bagong kaibigan, ang bawat umaga ay may hatid din na bagong karanasan at pagkatuto. Ang mga experiences na pagdadaanan mo ay ang siyang nagiging launch pad mo for greater opportunities ahead. Remember, experiences, whether good or bad, makes us who we are now. Ang tanong lang ay sa nagiging mas bitter ka ba or better? You can always choose the latter.

Improve yourself and others

May pagkakataon ka to be the best version of yourself, to be better than your yesterday’s self. Ang bawat panibagong araw ay nagbibigay ng pagkakataon sa atin para i-improve ang ating sarili, upang maging mas malakas tayo, mas matatag at mas kapaki-pakinabang. At sa pag-improve natin ng ating sarili, matutulungan din natin ang iba na ma-improve ang kalagayan nila. We are blessed to bless others. Don’t let it stop with you.

Exercise your right to be happy

Wala namang humahadlang sa atin na maging masaya kundi ang sarili nating paglilimita sa ating mga sarili. If people try to bring us down, we can always think positive, realizing that maybe we are evidently blessed kaya tayo pinababagsak. If people throw insults on us, maybe because they’re insecure of themselves. Learn to see the good things behind the bad, and once you’ve found it out, lift them up. We can always choose to be happy, and one good thing to do para maging mas magalak ay ang tulungan ang iba na umangat din, habang iniintindi sila. Of course, this is easier said than done, pero why not try and choose to be happy today?

Do more of what you love to do

Oh yes! May chance ka ulit na gawin ang mga bagay na gustong-gusto mong gawin. Take pictures, cook sumptuous meals, write blogs, read books, whatever your heart and hands want to do, do it for the glory of the Lord! You are given another day for you to enjoy the gifts of the Lord through your talents and skills. Make the Lord happy by enjoying His gifts to you.

Others are looking up to you and cheering for you

Madami ang nakatingin sayo, humuhugot sayo ng inspirasyon at lakas. Kung susuko ka, paano na lang sila? You were given another day kasi you are an encouragement to people. You give them hope, you give them joy, you give them a reason to carry on what they are going through. Kung iniisip mo na wala kang kakampi, just look around you, sa pamilya mo, sa mga kaibigan mo, sa mga nagmamahal sayo. They are cheering up for you!

Leave your baggage behind

Panahon na raw para iwanan mo ang mga mapapait na bakas ng kahapon. Hindi mo kailangang makulong sa mga regrets mo, sa mga bagay na nagawa mong mali in the past. Forgive and forget. Ask for forgiveness if you must. Iwan mo na ang emotional baggage mo at mag-move on ka na. This is the perfect day to do that. Wag ka nang maghintay ng bukas.

Open doors and windows

At dahil iiwanan mo na ang mabibigat mong dalahin, buksan mo na rin ang sarili mo sa magagandang plano ni Lord para sayo. Wag kang magmukmok at isipin na isa kang talunan. Open doors so that opportunities may come in, windows so the rays of hope will shine on your face. Ang bawat panibagong araw ay may hatid na pag-asa, kaya wag mong hayaan na hindi ka makakatanggap dahil nagtatago ka. Open up!

Rest for another day and get ready for tomorrow

At the end of the day, you know what’s good? Yung ma-realize mo na makakapagpahinga ka, at tuloy ang buhay bukas sa biyaya ng Diyos! Anumang bagay na pinu-pursue mo at hindi mo natapos, maaari mong balikan bukas, laying onto God your plans and dreams. You are blessed, dahil hinding-hindi ka mauubusan ng dahilan para ipagpasalamat sa Diyos. Maubos man ang araw natin sa mundo, pero hindi ang kagandahang-loob Niya sa atin. Kaya rest in His love. He knows how to take care of you.

Ikaw, anong mga dahilan mo bakit ka nagpapatuloy? Remember, you are as blessed as I am blessed. Cheers!